Has anyone ever left the island before and hubby had to have his orders Modified to unaccomanied? How did it work? 

People ask for ERD's all the time. I don't think it changes anything about the length of the orders though. 

I've heard its super hard to do. I haven't been here long though. 

Where can I find the info on the ERD? 

Where can I find the info on the ERD?

Your husband has to ask his command to do it.

I obviously don't know your reason, but if it's something along the lines of "I don't like it here" or "He's gone too much" it's very unlikely to get approved. 

There have been a lot of threads about ERDs. If you search I'm sure that a lot of info will come up. As Nicole said, you need to have a good reason to ERD (divorce, family emergency in the states, etc.). 

I hope you have a good reason.

Don't know how reliable this info is but this is one of our papers over here. The best place for you to ask this question and get good info is from his squadron. 

Thank you Boss. yes that was helpful. 

Just going to throw this out here. A lot depends on how long your husband has been here. The easy part is you leaving- you can do that any time you want but the govt will only do it once. The reason they usually keep the AD member here is due to the expense it takes to ship a family here and how hard it is to get people to come here.

When I was here in 99-2001 as a dependent I
ended up getting orders back to AD in NC. My wife ended up having to stay even though MCO says they have to try to keep us together. Slightly different situation but the same principle applies.

If you are going back due to your health or you have to take care of a sick relative or something could be a mitigating factor. But if you are leaving cuz oki sucks or your husband works too much he will likely have to stay.

Gl 

I know he will more then likely have to stay but If we stay this will just be a 3 year deployment. And I plan on staying till the kids finish out the school year and we will see where we are at by then. And see how things are. But as it is there was no point in the kids and i coming here, he is going to be gone all the time and put a strain on the marriage and the strain on the relationship with the kids and him. we have been through a long deployment before and we all did great cuz he came home afterwards, if we stay then it will just be a 3 year deployment. It would be different if he was stationed here and part of base and had time be with family but it is not. Literally he will only be here 1 month total out of a year. we did not know that till we got here. we knew he was gonna be gone alot but nothing like this. We are just trying it out gonna try and stick it out as long as we can but Iwas only asking a question about for future reference. But thank ya'll that had good advice. 

NP... we all have to make our choices. But let me just say this. (this is just MY Opinion so take it with a grain of salt)

Marriages in the military are hard in general whether he is here or not. For one thing it might mean the WORLD to him to know that during that one month a year he's coming home to his wife and kids and not a lonely bks room. But I don't know all that is going on in your situ.

Also there are many advantages to being here depending on the age of your kids. This is a GREAT place to raise a family. The schools are generally better than American public schools. Crime rates are far lower here. There is a better support system here than on most other bases.

This is just my personal opinion but I'd much rather have my family here then in the states.

W/E you decide I wish you the best of luck. It's def not an easy decision and no one can say which one is best- only which one is best for them. GL girl. 

Giggles- where is he going to be? Unless he will be near wherever you choose to live stateside, you won't get to see him either way and there will be the same strain on his relationship with you and the kids. 

Have you still not made friends? How old are your kids? There are free playgroups on Kadena. 

yea, like courtney said. free playgroups on kadena at niko niko CDC (where she and i met at first actually...)

or foster has them too. there may be playgroups on kinser. not sure.

just enjoy it while you can be here, i didn't like it here at all the first year or two, but i can manage now. i'm used to it i guess, familiar is always easier for me. 

Marriages in the military are hard in general whether he is here or not. For one thing it might mean the WORLD to him to know that during that one month a year he's coming home to his wife and kids and not a lonely bks room.

Hear, hear! 

JFTR Vol 1

Always read the order for yourself, don't always trust what others tell you.

Start on page 296 of the link. (Chap 5 Part J)

Read it and become familiar with it, then tailor your reasoning to fit.